What do the Ulamā of Islām say regarding the boundaries of husband and wife interaction during fasting? Is kissing the face, touching the body, kissing and sucking the lips and touching the private parts of the body appropriate during the fast?
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
الجواب بعون الملک الوھاب اللھم ھدایۃ الحق والصواب
If there is the possibility of ejaculation or falling into intercourse, then kissing, hugging, or touching a certain part of the body of one’s spouse will be Makrūh (disliked). If there is no fear of ejaculation or falling into intercourse then there is no harm in kissing upon the face, hugging and touching the body. However, it is better to avoid doing so. However, a passionate kiss i.e. pressing the lips with one’s own, sucking them and sucking the tongue is absolutely disliked and similarly the coming together of each other’s private parts.
It is mentioned in Radd al-Muhtār ‘alā al-Durr al-Mukhtār,
“( وَ كُرِهَ قُبْلَةٌ ) وَمَسٌّ وَمُعَانَقَةٌ وَمُبَاشَرَةٌ فَاحِشَةٌإنْ لَمْ يَأْمَنْ الْمُفْسِدَ وَإِنْ أَمِنَ لَا بَأْسَ ظَاهِرُهُ أَنَّ الْأَوْلَى عَدَمُهَا”
“(Kissing is disliked) and touching, hugging and the coming together of each other’s private parts, if one does not feel safe from the annulment of the fast, and if one feels safe from annulment then there is no harm. What is apparent is that avoidance of such things is most preferable.”
[Radd al-Muhtār, vol 3, pg 454]
In Radd al-Muhtār it is stated,
“أَنَّ الْقُبْلَةُ الْفَاحِشَةَ بِأَنْ يَمْضُغَ شَفَتَيْهَا تُكْرَهُ عَلَى الْإِطْلَاقِ أَيْ سَوَاءٌ أَمِنَ أَوْ لَا قَالَ فِي النَّهْرِ وَكَذَا الْمُبَاشَرَةُ الْفَاحِشَةُ فِي ظَاهِرِ الرِّوَايَةِ”
“That the passionate kiss in which the husband presses [i.e. chews] the lips of his wife is unrestrictedly disliked i.e. regardless of whether he feels safe or doesn’t. In al-Nahr the author stated ‘and similarly the coming together of the two private parts according to the apparent opinion in the Madhab.’”
[Radd al-Muhtār, vol 3, pg 455]
It is also stated in Bahār-e-Sharī’at that to kiss, hug, or touch the body of one’s wife in the state of fasting is Makrūh when there is a fear of seminal discharge or falling into intercourse. Sucking the lips and tongue is unrestrictedly disliked during fasting and similarly the coming together of the two private parts.
[Bahār-e-Sharī’at, vol 1, part 5, pg 997]
If the husband touches his wife’s private parts with his hand over her clothing, and the cloth is so thick that the heat of the body is not felt through it, then there is no problem in this.
It is mentioned in Bahār-e-Sharī’at that if a husband touched his wife over her clothes and the cloth is so thick that the warmth of the body is not felt, then the fast is not invalidated even if he ejaculated.
[Bahār-e-Sharī’at, vol 1, part 5, pg 988]
واللہ تعالی اعلم ورسولہ اعلم صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم
کتبہ ابو الحسن محمد قاسم ضیاء قادری
Answered by Mufti Qasim Zia al-Qadri
Translated by Mawlana Ibrar Shafi
Read the original Urdu answer here – [Q-ID0238] What are the boundaries of interaction between Husband & Wife whilst Fasting?