There is a guy who works with me who is gay. He’s a Muslim Pakistani & the name given to him by his parents is Muhammad. I have tried to explain to him that being gay is not allowed in Islam. However he said he can’t change. What should I do?
From the responsibilities given to the Ummah of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وآله وصحبه وسلم), doing Tableegh-e-Deen (i.e. propagation of Religion) as per our capabilities has been given great importance.
It says in the Holy Qur’an – “And there should be a group among you that invites to goodness, and enjoins good deeds and forbids immorality; it is they who are the successful.”
[Surah Aale Imran – verse 104]
Mufti Ahmad Yaar Khan Naeemi (رحمة الله عليه) in his marginalia to this ayah writes – “From this ayah we come to know that every Muslim should be a Muballigh (preacher). He should tell others what he knows and also preach his knowledge by his actions.”
[Tafseer Noorul Irfan]
Sayiduna Luqman (عليه السلام) says to his son in the Holy Qur’an – “O my son! Keep the prayer established, and enjoin goodness and forbid from evil, and be patient upon the calamity that befalls you; indeed these are acts of great courage.”
[Surah Luqman – verse 17]
The Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وآله وصحبه وسلم) said – “If you see something wrong try to change it with your hand, if you can’t do that, change it with your tongue (that is to speak against it), if you can’t do that, then change it with your heart (that is to feel bad for it in your heart) and this is the weakest faith.”
[Sahih Muslim – Kitabul Imaan]
Therefore, if you have tried explaining to this person the prohibition of homosexuality in Islam, then your duty is complete and you will not be questioned regarding this on the day of Judgement.
But at the same time, once in awhile, do try to talk to him and make him understand and try to convince him. Ask him to join you for prayers, Islamic gatherings and, if possible, ask a responsible, mature and knowledgeable Islamic scholar to speak to him.
Allah knows best.
Answered by Mawlana Mohammed Kashif